Hiring executives say there are increasingly uninvited and unseen "guests" in the room during job interviews: the helicopter parents of the candidates.

That's what an OfficeTeam survey of hiring managers found when it delved into the difficulties their respondents encountered while trying to do their jobs. Candidates raised by helicopter parents may be able to tie their shoes, but mom and date still help with the selection of the shoe, and are eager to tell them which foot to put forward as their careers unfold.

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The prevalence of parental presence has gotten so bad that, of those surveyed, just 29 percent said it didn't really bother them. More than two-thirds said parental intrusions in the hiring process were truly annoying, while the rest (34 percent) said that while they don't like it, they try to shrug it off in the interest of filling a position.

To nonhiring managers, this may sound like an overblown situation. Brandi Britton, district president of OfficeTeam, says the phenomenon is real and fairly common among millennials — especially recent college graduates. 

"Yes, we have seen many helicopter parents wanting to be involved in the hiring process," she says. "One of the biggest changes between generations is that millennials really value their parents' opinion and advice. It's not that previous [generations] didn't, but with millennials, it's much more so. It has blurred the line between being independent and on your own, and a sense of being in this together with my parents."

It's not really helpful for parents to get involved in the hiring process, she said. The 35 percent who are annoyed by the intrusion generally don't hire the candidates, and the 34 percent who are willing to overlook the hovering parent syndrome still have misgivings about the candidate's ability to work independently, she says.

"Finding good talent is difficult right now, that's why so many overlook the parental involvement," she says. "But it's definitely not a good thing."

Will the trend extend as new generations move up to the world of work? "Probably not," she says. "The helicopter parent has become almost a stigma, so I think both children and parents are going to be more cautious about it in the future." 

Her own favorite helicopter parenting experience occurred when she was part of a group that was recruiting on a college campus. They made an offer to a young woman, only to hear the whirring sound of the helicopter parent. 

"She could not accept the offer without calling her dad. We had to walk him through the offer, which he finally accepted!" 

Britton has also been amused by parents who call their children during an interview "to see how it's going." She says it happens fairly often. "In my experience, the kids only pick up the call if they feel they need help," she says.

Those who responded to the OfficeTeam survey offered their own anecdotes of interventions in the process by helicopter parents. Among them: 

    • "The candidate opened his laptop and had his mother Skype in for the interview."

    • "A woman brought a cake to try to convince us to hire her daughter."

    • "One parent asked if she could do the interview for her child because he had somewhere else to be." 

    • "A father asked us to pay his son a higher salary." 

    • "One mom knocked on the office door during an interview and asked if she could sit in." 

    • "Parents have arrived with their child's resume and tried to convince us to hire him or her." 

    • "A job seeker was texting his parent the questions I was asking during the interview and waiting for a response."

    • "Once a father called us pretending he was from the candidate's previous company and offered praise for his son." 

    • "When we called one candidate, his mom answered and asked us not to hire him."

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Dan Cook

Dan Cook is a journalist and communications consultant based in Portland, OR. During his journalism career he has been a reporter and editor for a variety of media companies, including American Lawyer Media, BusinessWeek, Newhouse Newspapers, Knight-Ridder, Time Inc., and Reuters. He specializes in health care and insurance related coverage for BenefitsPRO.